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Tuesday, July 29, 2014

SAFE DRIVING TIPS

SAFETY FIRST SPEED AFTERWARDS. BETTER LATE THAN NEVER.

DRIVE CAREFULLY FOR THE SHAKE OF YOURS' CHILDREN.

DRIVE CAREFULLY FOR THE SHAKE OF OTHERS CHILDREN.

LIQUOR AND DRIVING MAKES A LETHAL COCKTAIL.

AVOID DRIVING WHEN YOU ARE TIRED, SICK OR FATIGUED.

SLOW DOWN SPEED, IF SOMETHING ON THE ROAD, IS BOTHERING YOU.

USE HORNS WHILE STARTING, TO WARN PEDESTRIANS AT CROWDED PLACES.

DRIVE SLOWLY, WHEN ROAD IS WET.

DRIVE SLOWLY, WHEN BRAKES ARE WET.

USE BOTH BRAKES SIMULTANEOUSLY WHILE DRIVING A BIKE.

SLOW DOWN SPEED AND USE HORNS WHEN ONE VEHICLE IS OVERTAKING ANOTHER FROM THE FRONT ON THE NARROW ROAD.

DRIVE SAFELY, YOUR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE WAITING AT HOME.

REPEAT THESE TIPS TIME AND AGAIN, TO ENABLE YOU TO APPLY THEM IN TIME OF NEED.

ANOTHER DESTRUCTIVE CLICHE "I THOUGHT!"


"I thought" is another useless, time wasting and a destructive phrase like " Just for.....". Many of us don't explore all possibilities;  many of us don't do due diligence but just make baseless assumptions and take a particular course of action. Later on, we exclaim in a resigned tone, oh I just THOUGHT!

One fine morning my wife didn't give me the lunch box; she innocently explained," I thought, there would be a feast today in your office." 
" Are you a magician?", I asked jokingly. She defended," Today is a special day." That Tuesday was, of course, a special day, but nonvegetarians shifted lunch party to Wednesday, so  I didn't tell her to skip the lunch box, nor did she ask me, Although I enjoyed my lunchtime by relishing tasty Pao-Bhaji at Banshee Sweets. Perhaps my wife took the shield of cliché "I thought" to save her from cooking lunch due to other engagements.

Once we issued notices to the loan repayment defaulters; an innocent looking young borrower called on me and defended," Sir, I THOUGHT, the bank has waived my loan" I asked politely," Sir, did bank give you any no dues letter?" He replied in negative.
 Perhaps he took the shield of cliché "I thought" to save himself from the pain of repaying loan installments from his small income. But now he was spending sleepless nights to avoid legal action.
So "I THOUGHT" is another dangerous, destructive and time-wasting phrase like "Just for...." 
Avoid it even in your dreams and act only on the basis of adequate due diligence.


Thursday, July 17, 2014

YOU SULK, I COAX (तुम रूठा करो , मैं मनाया करूँ)


YOU SULK, I COAX

This deceptive psychological game is played in the most household. One player gets annoyed at a trivial matter, and he starts sulking. Another player persuades him to spit the anger. In the hardened form, sometimes the Coaxer has to shed priceless tears also. After the sulker stops sulking, the coaxer gets a great psychological satisfaction and pats his back for his excellent coaxing skills.
However sadly, after sometimes the coaxer again creates the undesirable situation that made his partner upset and the game restarts.

The great psychiatrist and transactional analyst Dr. Eric Berne wrote a bestselling book named "Games People Play" in 1964. He narrated many psychological games in his bestselling book. "Look how hard I've tried." Now I have got you, you son of a bitch" "Why don't you, yes but" are the name of some games narrated by Dr. Eric Berne.
Almost all these psychological games are repetitive in nature, waste of time as well as harmful. The players play them unknowingly till their death. The mover collects fake mental pleasure, and the victim gets despair.

"Rapo" is also a very common dangerous game described by Dr. Berne. This game often results in severe depression. Many times this game leads into criminal case trials, and sometimes it results even into homicide. The interested readers may visit http://www.ericberne.com/games-people-play/rapo/ for more details. I recommend that everybody  should read and understand "Rapo."
 Dr. Berne also narrated some constructive games such as "They'll be glad, they knew me," "Homely sage" etc.,
Dr. Berne also suggested ways of getting rid of games and leading a meaning life.

Sunday, July 13, 2014

BE LIKE A POWERFUL MAGNET

BECOME A POWERFUL MAGNET

Once I viewed the great blockbuster Lagaan. 
 Bhuvan alone dared to accept the gauntlet thrown by the haughty Russel. All the villagers of Champaner were dead against forming a cricket team, of novice villagers, for challenging the skilled English team. But Bhuvan had a vision; he had will power, and he had firm determination. He narrated benefits and comforts that will be theirs after getting tax exemption. First Tipu volunteered to play in his team. Soon Bagha and Ghuran followed. Gradually the number of players started increasing. Deva came from Punjab with the sole motive to thrust a crushing defeat on the British. Even the Captain Russel's sister, Elizabeth was attracted to the noble cause and started teaching cricket to Bhuvan's team. 


A superb magnet has an irresistible attraction power.  The great magnetic personalities attract the masses for worthy causes.
Bhuvan of film "LAGAN"  had a pleasing personality as well as an indomitable will power. He showered love, regard, affection and good will on everybody he met. He had a clear vision to get three years tax exemption for the whole state. He promptly declared," In the impending threat, there is a marvelous opportunity of getting three years tax exemption." He tried to find a way amid difficulties, and his goal was for the benefit of the whole village. He continuously repeated his goal to keep the villagers motivated," There will be three years tax exemption if we win otherwise we will be forced to pay the triple tax." 
 Thus he became a powerful magnet.
Management lessons from Lagaan are taught at many places. We, too, may learn lessons of leadership, team building, etc. from this great film.  

Saturday, July 12, 2014

क्या आप अपनी महंगी कार में कचरा डालेंगे ?

                        क्या आप अपनी महंगी  कार में कचरा डालेंगे ?

मुझे चोर उचक्कों के  SMS प्राप्त होते रहते है , जिनमें वे लाखों-करोड़ों के पुरस्कार देने  की लालच  देते  हैं , लेकिन  यदि कोई ईमानदार आदमी आपको  सचमुच संसार की सबसे महंगी कार  से  पुरस्कृत कर  दे तो क्या आप उसकी टंकी में  कचरा डालेंगे ?
आप सोच रहे होंगे कि कोई अर्ध्विच्छिप्त ही विश्व की सबसे महंगी कार की टंकी में  कचरा डालने के बारे में सोचेगा, तो क्या आप अपनी पुरानी मारुती कार या घर में रखे 2000 मॉडल की मोटर साइकिल की टंकी में 
कचरा  डालेंगे  ? 
आप अवश्य ही मुझे कोस रहे होंगे क्योंकि मैं अनर्गल प्रश्न पूछकर आपका बहुमूल्य समय नष्ट कर रहा हूँ, सच पूछिये तो मुझे भीे  घोर आत्मग्लानि हो रही है। 
लेकिन, ज़रा सोचिये, "क्या आपको ईश्वर ने संसार की सबसे अमूल्य धरोहर नहीं दी है? क्या करोड़ों अरबों खर्च करके भी कोई अपना असली किडनी या लिवर पा सकता है? क्या  दुनिया  के  सारे  हीरे -जवाहिरात  भी  किसी  को  उसका  प्राकृतिक फेफड़ा  दिला  सकते  हैं ?"
आप अपनी खटारा मोटर साइकिल या कार की टंकी में भी कचरा डालने की बात पर भरकने लगते  हैं , परन्तु क्या हममें से अनेक ईश्वर प्रदत्त अमूल्य शरीर में हानिकारक गुटखा-तम्बाकू, जानलेवा शराब, सिगरेट का धुँआ या मौत की ओर ले जाने वाले खाद्य पदार्थ नहीं डालते हैं? 
यदि आपके कार या मोटर साइकिल की टंकी में कचरा डालने की बात करना पागलपन है तो अपने अनूठे और अनमोल शरीर के साथ किये जा रहे उपरोक्त गतिविधियों के बारे में आप क्या कहेंगे ? 
क्या  आप  अपनी अवांछित  आदतों  से सचमुच छुटकारा  पाना  चाहते  हैं ? बताइये, क्या सचमुच आप  अपनी अवांछित  आदतों  से सचमुच छुटकारा  पाना  चाहते  हैं ?

'बारम्बारता  का  सिद्धांत ' और  मेरा  अनुभव  यह  कहता  है  की   सिर्फ  उपरोक्त   को  बार -बार  दोहराने  से ही  आपको  शरीर  को  हानि  पहुँचाने  वाले  अवांछित  आदतों  से  अनिच्छा  होने  लगेगी।