HOW REPETITION SAVED ME FROM NASHAKHURANI GANG.

 Five years ago I was at Patna Railway Station where I saw a large number of posters exhorting passengers not to consume anything from unknown persons.

I purchased a ticket for an express train for Mughalsarai but had to board a local train since there was too much rush in general compartments of express trains.

The local became very late due to frequent overtaking by express trains. I ran out of water at a small station where the train stopped for more than half hour since two express trains overtook us in continuation. I became very thirsty and decided to drink water from the hand pipe. But Alas! All the hand pipes at the station were dry. I was restlessly searching for water. One Dhoti clad dark complexioned man, in his fifties, offered to help me. He fetched water in my pot from a 200-meter distant place. I was about to drink water out of severe thirst. Then incidentally my eyes glanced at a poster exhorting to be aware of Nashakhurani gangs.

My sixth sense got alert at once, and I just touched the pot with my lips but only feigned to take water. The impostor of Santa Clause had suspicious body language. He went out of the compartment for a short while; I took advantage of this opportunity and changed the compartment. The black sheep came searching for me restlessly within ten minutes and asked,” Sahab, why have you changed compartment?” I made some lame excuses; the thug was astonished to see me in senses and departed in a flustered state.

Indeed, the large numbers of posters, making public aware of Nashakhurani gangs saved me and I reached Mugalsarai safe after completing the journey of 212 Kilometers in ten hours.

Wise men exhort writing our goals and pasting it at a conspicuous place (e.g. mirror). This shows our unflinching commitment towards our goals and also stalls our minds from forgetting them. Try it for reaping a good harvest.

WHAT IS THE GREATEST SIN?

I was with my elder son for ten days in Bangalore. We went to Pondicherry and enjoyed the clean and beautiful city. He took all cares of his mother and me.

CHILDREN ARE A GIFT FROM GOD

I remembered his childhood days. How I used to punish him due to my frustrations and depressions earned in office. I was thinking with self-reproach,” Was it proper to punish a small child on a little pretext to ventilate frustrations of my workplace?”

In another incident, one of my close relatives called on us with his family members a few months ago. He has two beautiful sweet children. He was lovingly teasing them,” We will leave you at this place.” His two years old younger daughter was taking his teasings right. The poor girl was totally nervous, and she desperately hugged her mother tightly. I intervened finally and lovingly forbade him not to tease children.

At another place, a grown up was entertaining himself by abusing a small child. The child was retorting in the same language.

Is it proper to tease lovely children and give them psychological shocks just for the pastime? Is it proper to punish an innocent looking child on small pretexts because one is carrying loads of frustration, tiredness, and depression from his workplace?
 Is it not the greatest sin of this world?

KEEP SCANNING YOUR ENVIRONMENT.

I was going to Pondicherry by Yashwant-Pondecherry express on May 29th, 2015. The train was scheduled to depart at 9 P.M. from Yashwantpur. We started by taxi at 7 P.M. from our residence at Sarjapur Road. Two hours appeared more than sufficient. My elder son Adwitiya was managing all affairs.
 There was a heavy traffic jam near KR Puram. I became a little concerned but Adwitiya consoled," Once we cross KR Puram, the road will be clear. But due to heavy rain in the evening all the bikers were riding on their cars so there was heavy traffic jam in the whole road. Finally we reached Yashwantpur Railway Station at 9.10 p.m. and found that the train had departed right time. We had to travel by Bus and incur additionally 2000 bucks. (It is another thing that I immediately curtailed expenditure of 2000 bucks elsewhere)

 Later on I found on the internet that the train’s first stoppage was Banaswadi (Bangluru) at 9.25 PM. Banaswadi is nearer to Sarjapur than Yashwantpur. So we could have easily boarded the train at Banaswadi and avoided inconvenience of bus journey in sitting position.

I was supposed to scan my future environment earlier. Had I searched on Google earlier about the train's route, I would have known about Banaswadi and would have saved my money and inconvenience.
 I usually walk around my locality to find what is where? If I meet any new person, I try to find about his background beforehand. I keep myself abreast of all the developments taking place in my environment.
 But I failed miserably here because I thought," I am old enough now and my son will take care of all the affairs." Mr C.S.Lewis rightly told," You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.

HOW I PROCRASTINATED AN IMPORTANT WORK FOR ONE MONTH?

  “Procrastination is the thief of time.”, The wise exhorted. 
 I too wrote an article," FINISH THE TASKS AT THE EARLIEST." and DRIVE PROCRASTINATION AND INDECISION AWAY FOREVER. But alas, I, too, became a victim of procrastination even then.

My mother was admitted, one by one, to three hospitals for the treatment of liver cancer, but Alas!  She succumbed at last.
 I was required to submit three medical claims which looked like a marathon task. 

I received all papers on the 13th April 2015. So I decided to finish it on the next Sunday, i.e., on April, 19th. But I was in a meeting on that day. So the next best day was chosen on the 26th April. Again I had some important work, so this work went on being procrastinated for more than one month altogether.

Once I was reading my article," INCH BY INCH, ANYTHING IS A CINCH." I decided to use this theory on the medical bills. I immediately opened the envelope, scanned the bills and segregated them hospital wise. I worked on them for half an hour. Next day, too, I spared around one hour to prepare the claims. Lo, the claims were ready for submission in mere three days.
We often procrastinate monotonous or tedious tasks for months and years altogether, but amazingly, we finish them soon after we start.
 Human beings are prone to forget. Therefore, I advocate reading good articles every day. Many devotees read religious books daily; they start re-reading them after coming to an end.

Start, therefore, inculcating good thoughts into healthy habits by repeatedly reading good articles every day from your lovely blog truedreams19000.blogspot.com.

ALERTNESS REQUIRED IN KNOWN PLACES TOO

Accidents ambush the unsuspecting, often violently.
- Andrew Davidson. 
My friend Abhay Jee was going downstairs in his brother in law’s house where he had visited thousands of times. Hence, he perceived no danger. Abhay Jee lost a little balance on the last stair.Lo! both his ankle's bones cracked; the poor fellow was confined to bed for three months.

PLEASE MIND YOUR STEPS. ANY CASUAL ATTITUDE MAY CONFINE YOU ON BED FOR  MONTHS.

My one more friend Anil Jee broke his leg while going downstairs in his own home.He suggests remaining more alert while going downstairs.

A good number of persons fall in their own bathrooms and get cracked hip-bones. My nephew fell in a pothole near his house and suffered seven stitches on his upper lip.

Therefore the slogan "Remain vigilant, keep safe." will keep you safe and sound at all places.  One Shayar wrote," न मुझे जितने की खुशी थी, न मुझे हारने का गम था, मगर अफ़सोस मेरी किश्ती वहां डूबी जहाँ पानी कम था। "  (I was neither pleased to win, nor depressed to lose. But, alas my boat capsized in shallow waters.) 
The need of the hour is to remain more alert in known places since any complacency and carelessness will cause large losses.

अगर दिल खोलते यारों के साथ

सुना है कि एक हार्ट हॉस्पिटल के ऑपरेशन-कक्ष  पर लिखा था ," अगर दिल खोलते  यारों के साथ तो खुलवाना न पड़ता औजारों के साथ "

एक दिन मैं काफी परेशान था। उसी समय मेरे एक मित्र अपनी समस्या-समाधान हेतु मेरे कक्ष में आये। उनकी बातें धैर्यपुर्वक सुनकर मैंने उन्हें आश्वासन दिया,"कुछ महीनों में मैं आपकी समस्या  सुलझा दूँगा।"
 परन्तु वे अपनी समस्या का शीघ्र समाधान चाह रहे थे, यद्यपि मुझे अविलम्ब कोई हल नजर नहीं आ रहा था।
 मैंने उन्हें समझाने कि पुरजोर कोशिश की, लेकिन दुर्भाग्यवश वे अपनी बात पर अड़े रहे । अंत में मेरा धैर्य जवाब दे गया और मैं उनसे लड़ बैठा।
बाद में मुझे महसूस हुआ कि  अगर मैं परेशान न होता तो शायद मैं धैर्य एवम वाकपटुता के साथ उन्हें इन्तज़ार करने के लिये मना लेता। यदि प्रारम्भ में ही मैं उन्हें अपनी मनःस्थिति के बारे में बता देता तो शायद वे उस दिन अनावश्यक दबाब न देते और अप्रियता टल जाती।  

एक बार मोटरसाइकिल से गिरने के कारण मेरे पाँव के घुटनों में हलकी चोटें आ गईं। मैं घर पर आराम कर रहा था, तभी मेरे मित्र राजीव जी ने फोन किया। मेरी बातों में गर्मजोशी नहीं थी और आवाज भी थकी-थकी थी। उन्होंने अविलंब ताड़ लिया कि मैं परेशान हूँ। मैंने उन्हें दुर्घटना के बारे में बताया तो वे मीठी झिड़की देने लगे," आपने पहले क्यों नहीं बताया ?" पहले पता हो जाता तो मैं आपसे अपने काम के बारे में आज बात नहीं करता।" राजीव जी की सलाह अमल करने लायक है।
  यदि आपकी मनःस्थिति किसी कारणवश  ठीक नहीं हो तो आप अपने दोस्तों और परिवार के सदस्यों को बता दें ताकि वे आपको आराम करने दें  और मानसिक सम्बल दें।  

START SMALL TALKS TO IMPROVE RELATIONSHIPS

Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart. - Henry Clay.

Short talks attract attention of friends,  they strengthen existing friendship and turn new acquaintances into close friends.  Short talks also pre-empt any lull in the conversation.

One needs to ask only friendly questions to make one's friend talk comfortably. There is no place for uncomfortable issues in this friendship development process.

Use a few words of genuine appreciation to please your friend; he will start talking in detail. The more you hear him, the more impressed your friend will become and the friendship becomes more and closer.
Following questions will be helpful in starting small talks.
1. What is your name?
2. How many kids do you have?
3. How are you?
4. How are your children and what are they doing?
5. What is your opinion on this topic?

HOW I MANAGED A NICE SNUB?

Once my junior colleague X got flustered with me and lightly snubbed me; my immediate reaction was to teach him a perfect lesson. But I refrained myself from overreacting.
  After cooling down, I realized'" I am only an average human being out of trillions of people residing on this small earth compared to the vast galaxy.This great universe neither starts from me nor ends with me."
 My colleague X is a nice gentleman; he had supported me on numerous occasions. However, he was nervous and restless on that particular day due to an acute connectivity problem. Naturally, he lost his self-control a little.Therefore I decided to give him moral support. I told my friend Y, who is a very supportive person, to accompany and support X as far as possible.

Next day I called on X in office and asked with affection,” How he is?” I sympathized with him for acute connectivity problem that ground everything to a halt yesterday. He replied with all courtesy and good will.

Earlier I used to make a scene in similar circumstances and tried to teach such persons a lesson so that others dare not misbehave with me. But now there was a paradigm shift that satisfied all concerned. 

My elder brother-in-law used to exclaim, “I became matured at 50, Uttam Jee will attain maturity at 60." I appear to have achieved it at 54 years itself. What a good news! Ha! Ha! Ha!
We don't extract our teeth for biting our tongue; we don't throw our bike if it stops working in the midway. Then why should we sour a good friendship for trivial matters?

BECOME AMBIDEXTROUS

One is either left handed or right handed. The left-handers are guided by their right brains, and the right-handers are guided by their left brains. Thus both left handers and right handers use only 50% of their brain.

One of the founders of United States of America  Mr. Benjamin Franklin was also ambidextrous.

Sachin Tendulkar writes with the left hand but batted and bowled with the right hand. Saurabh Ganguli bowled from the right hand and batted from the left hand. Typists, knitters, musicians, etc. use their both hands with equal ease. I use both hands in my daily chores since I suffer from frozen left shoulder.
 My doctor told me that left frozen shoulder might have resulted from less use of left hand. Moreover using both hands simultaneously increases my efficiency also but I don't bother too much about being ambidextrous and do it in symphony with my psych and soul.

HOW LONG CAN YOU WORK WITHOUT PAYMENT?

Money is the biggest motivator; therefore, the rich as well as poor, hanker after it.
 A porter asks for money just after rendering service. A laborer asks for it at the end of the day. The service class asks for money at the end of the month. The entrepreneur puts all his investments and efforts at stake without getting anything for the months and years altogether, but when his project starts yielding money, he becomes millionaire or billionaire.
 Thomas Edison incessantly worked to invent incandescent lamp for many years; he put all his intelligence and all his time to research like a crazy without getting anything. Although he failed thousands of times, when he succeeded in 1879, he gave us not only a priceless and unique gift but also made his name immortal. As an icing on the cake, he also earned a formidable fortune from his inventions and patents.

 How long and on how many occasions can we work without payment? The more we develop our capability to toil without it, the more name, the more fame and the more money will kiss our feet.
Start acting just now and save as much as possible to develop the capability to work without money. The habit of savings works two ways; it reduces your needs as well as strengthens your financial muscles incredibly.

USE NATURE'S COOLANTS

We take special care to protect working machines from overheating. We use coolant in our cars, bikes, and in our refrigerators, etc. Even we switch off our fans to save them from overheating and resultant damages

The same precaution is required to keep our minds calm and cool.

Greenery and flowers help to keep us poised and relaxed.

 Use natural coolants to achieve this vital goal.
i) Inhale deeply to give your mind lots of oxygen
ii) Drink water often

iii) Talk lightly sometimes to make your colleagues laugh.
iv) Take rests at regular intervals. You may take a short break to walk for a few minutes and also do a little stretching after working for an hour.

These simple tips will help you to keep your mind cool and in a good working condition.