हमारे रंगीन चश्मे

'एथेंस का सत्यार्थी' के नायक ने जिद करके नँगा सत्य देखने का प्रयास किया। परिणामस्वरूप, उसकी आँखें चौन्धिया गयीं और वह अंधा हो गया।

सच पूछिए तो अपने बारे में नग्न सत्य हम भी नहीं बर्दाश्त कर पाते हैं। अतः अपनी आंखों पर रंगीन चश्मे लगाकर खुद को धोखा देते हैं।

अमिताभ बच्चन की सुप्रसिद्ध फ़िल्म शराबी याद कीजिये। शराब की अपनी बुरी लत को तर्कसंगत बनाने के लिए एक गाने में उन्होंने सारे संसार को नशे में धुत बता दिया।

प्रत्येक व्यक्ति अपनी आंखों के सामने पाक-साफ दिखना चाहता है। मसलन यदि मैं कामचोर हूँ तो कम से कम अपनी नज़रों के सामने गिरना नहीं चाहूँगा। अतः अपने-आप को ठगने के लिए मुझे एक रंगीन चश्मा पहनना होगा, जिस चश्मे से सारा विश्व कामचोर दिखेगा। लेकिन बात इतने पर समाप्त नहीं होती है। मुझे अपनी अदालत में दूसरों को कामचोर साबित करके दिखाना पड़ेगा, ताकि मैं अपनी कामचोरी को आम इंसानी कमजोरी मानकर तर्कसंगत साबित कर सकूँ।

यहीं से सारे झगड़ों की शुरुआत होती है। मैं अपने अधीनस्थों पर कामचोरी का आरोप लगाता हूँ, चाहे वे कितनी ही तन्मयता या अतन्मयता के साथ अपना कार्य कर रहे हों। बदले में वे भी मेरा प्रतिरोध प्रारम्भ कर देते हैं। फिर गुट बनते हैं। लोग एक दूसरे को नीचे दिखाने के लिये प्रयत्न-रत हो जाते हैं और अपने दिन की चैन और रात की नींद हराम कर लेते हैं।

परस्पर आरोप-प्रत्यारोप के बीच टीम-भावना की बलि चढ़ाई जाती है और परिवार, समाज और संस्थाएं इसका भारी मूल्य चुकाती हैं।
टीम-भावना के समाप्त होने के कारण हम निर्रथक झगड़ों में फंस के रह जाते हैं। परिणामस्वरूप, हम मनोवांछित सफलताएँ नहीं प्राप्त कर पाते हैं और जीवन के हमारे बहुत सारे अरमान अधूरे रह जाते हैं।

आखिर इस गम्भीर बीमारी का क्या इलाज हो सकता है?

संक्रमण भगाएँ, स्वास्थ्य लाएँ

आपने मृत  पशु  अवश्य  देखा  होगा।  उसके  देहांत  के    बाद  अविलम्ब  दुर्गंध नहीं  फैलता है।  शव  जैसे-जैसे  सड़ता  है , हवा  में  बदबू  फैलने  लगती  है।  धीरे-धीरे   शव  सूखता  जाता है, एक समय ऐसा भी आता है, जब  शव  सूखकर  समाप्त  हो  जाता है। साथ  ही दुर्गंध भी समाप्त  हो जाता  है। 
 यक्ष -प्रश्न  यह है कि  शव  बिना  हटाये  कहाँ  चला  जाता  है। उसके बहुत  छोटे-छोटे  टुकड़े  अदृश्य बैक्टीरिया  में  परिणत होकर हवा  में  तैरते-तैरते समाप्त  हो  जाते  हैं। उधर  से  गुजरने  वालों  के  सम्पूर्ण  शरीर  को अदृश्य  बैक्टीरिया  दुष्प्रभावित करते रहते  हैं। 

अतः बदबूदार स्थानों पर बदबू होने का मुख्य कारण हवा में तैरते बैक्टीरिया होते हैं। अतः जब हम बदबूदार स्थानों पर जाते हैं तो हमारा पूरा शरीर हवा में तैरते इन बैक्टिरिया के बीच में चला जाता हैं। यह एक तरह से प्रदूषित हवा में डूबकी लगाने जैसा होता है। अतः यथासम्भव बदबूदार स्थानों से दूर रहने में ही भलाई है। यथासम्भव  समाज में या घर में भी दुर्गंध न पैदा होने दें।

मेरे मित्र का छः साल पहले किडनी प्रत्यर्पण हुआ। वे आज भी पूर्णतः स्वस्थ हैं। उन्होंने बताया कि किडनी प्रत्यर्पण के बाद चिकित्सक ने उन्हें संक्रमण से बचाव के लिए निम्नलिखित सुझाव दिए।

1.सत्तर से अस्सी प्रतिशत मामलों में संक्रमण मल-मूत्र त्याग करते समय होता है। अतः वाश रूम हमेशा साफ-सुथरा रखें।

2. यात्रा करते समय फिनाइल अपने साथ रखें और सार्वजानिक शौचालयों में मल-मूत्र त्याग करने के पहले उसमें पानी मिलाकर शौचालय में डाल दें।

 रेल यात्रा के समय फेनाइल रखने का प्रयोग एक नयी क्रांति लाएगा।
 मेरे एक अन्य मित्र प्रमोद बाबू को को गन्दे शौचालय में मूत्र-त्याग के बाद संक्रमण हो गया था, बेचारे को अंततः पी.जी.आई. लखनऊ में  इलाज  कराना  पड़ा।  

आज के लिये उर्जापूर्ण और प्रेरणादायक प्रार्थना.

यह उर्जापूर्ण एवं  प्रेरणादायक प्रार्थना सुबह के सुस्ती और अवसाद को दूर भगाने में उपयोगी है. नींद टूटने के ठीक बाद इसे  बार-बार दुहराकर लाभ उठायें.

 

हे प्रभु, आपका कोटि-कोटि आभार !आज मैं साँसे ले रहा  हूँ। आज मेरे सपनों को साकार करने के लिए सुनहला अवसर है।

 

आज मैं सभी साधनों का सदुपयोग पूरी कुशलता से अपने उद्देश्यों की सिद्धि हेतु करुँगा। 

 

आज मैं अतीत पर व्यर्थ चिंतन कर या निरर्थक झगड़ों, मनोरंजनों आदि में उलझकर अपनी सर्जनशीलता बाधित नहीं करूँगा औऱ अपनी मानसिक शक्तियों का उपयोग सिर्फ रचनात्मक कार्यों के लिये ही करुँगा।

 

 आज मैं हमेशा शांत रहूँगा। अच्छी तरह से सोच-समझकर कम-से-कम,मधुर और प्रेरणादायक वचन बोलूँगा तथा शिष्टाचार, सद्भाव एवम शुभकामनायें ब्यक्त करता रहूँगा ।

 

आज मैं लगातार अपने जीवन लक्ष्य की ओर बढता जाऊँगा।

 

आज मैं अधिक से अधिक उद्यम करूँगा। योजना बनाकर कठोर श्रम करना मेरे लिए सरल औऱ स्वाभाविक है।

आज मैं "कल करे सो आज कर, आज करे सो अब" के सिद्धांत को जीवन में चरितार्थ करूँगा।

हे प्रभु,आपकी उपस्थिति  उर्जापूर्ण और प्रेरणादायक है.आपने काफी उम्मीदों के साथ मुझे इस धरा पर भेजा है.  आज मैं आपकी उम्मीदों पर खड़ा उतरुँगा . मैं आपकी संतानों की यथासम्भव मदद करूँगा और उनका जीवन आसान बनाने का भरसक प्रयास करूँगा. आज मैं महान् सफलताएँ  पाऊँगा.

 

यदि आपको यह प्रार्थना अच्छी लगी तो अपने मित्रों को भी बताएं.

 

अगर दिल खोलते यारों के साथ

सुना है कि एक हार्ट हॉस्पिटल के ऑपरेशन-कक्ष  पर लिखा था ," अगर दिल खोलते  यारों के साथ तो खुलवाना न पड़ता औजारों के साथ "

एक दिन मैं काफी परेशान था। उसी समय मेरे एक मित्र अपनी समस्या-समाधान हेतु मेरे कक्ष में आये। उनकी बातें धैर्यपुर्वक सुनकर मैंने उन्हें आश्वासन दिया,"कुछ महीनों में मैं आपकी समस्या  सुलझा दूँगा।"
 परन्तु वे अपनी समस्या का शीघ्र समाधान चाह रहे थे, यद्यपि मुझे अविलम्ब कोई हल नजर नहीं आ रहा था।
 मैंने उन्हें समझाने कि पुरजोर कोशिश की, लेकिन दुर्भाग्यवश वे अपनी बात पर अड़े रहे । अंत में मेरा धैर्य जवाब दे गया और मैं उनसे लड़ बैठा।
बाद में मुझे महसूस हुआ कि  अगर मैं परेशान न होता तो शायद मैं धैर्य एवम वाकपटुता के साथ उन्हें इन्तज़ार करने के लिये मना लेता। यदि प्रारम्भ में ही मैं उन्हें अपनी मनःस्थिति के बारे में बता देता तो शायद वे उस दिन अनावश्यक दबाब न देते और अप्रियता टल जाती।  

एक बार मोटरसाइकिल से गिरने के कारण मेरे पाँव के घुटनों में हलकी चोटें आ गईं। मैं घर पर आराम कर रहा था, तभी मेरे मित्र राजीव जी ने फोन किया। मेरी बातों में गर्मजोशी नहीं थी और आवाज भी थकी-थकी थी। उन्होंने अविलंब ताड़ लिया कि मैं परेशान हूँ। मैंने उन्हें दुर्घटना के बारे में बताया तो वे मीठी झिड़की देने लगे," आपने पहले क्यों नहीं बताया ?" पहले पता हो जाता तो मैं आपसे अपने काम के बारे में आज बात नहीं करता।" राजीव जी की सलाह अमल करने लायक है।
  यदि आपकी मनःस्थिति किसी कारणवश  ठीक नहीं हो तो आप अपने दोस्तों और परिवार के सदस्यों को बता दें ताकि वे आपको आराम करने दें  और मानसिक सम्बल दें।  

YOU CAN GET LIFE’S ULTIMATE AIM INSTANTLY.

You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted.   -   Ruth E.Renkl.

Many persons must be furious and be contemplating to call Police. But, please mind the title. I merely said, “You can get.” I did neither promise you anything nor did I ask anything in return.

The billion dollar question is," What is our life's ultimate aim?"

 We strive for a big luxury car, for what? We toil day and night for a big luxury house, for what? We burn our blood to put ten million bucks in our bank’s account, for what?  Can these things give us real happiness?

I have seen many sad souls living in big houses, driving air-conditioned cars and owning millions of property. All these things are certainly important but of no use, if they fail to make us happy.

 Once I visited a friend's house, the house lady at once started scolding her mother-in-law. To make the matter worse, she continued to relate her illness and hardships till we stayed there. She had stored too much acid in her heart.

I suffer from blood pressure, diabetes, gastric, piles, back pain, gout, tennis elbow, etc.  Once my junior Shri Manoj Choudhary asked jokingly, "Sir, please name a healthy part of your body." I promptly retorted, "I got a frail physique by birth, but I can defeat anyone instantly in gusto and enthusiasm.

Once my car broke down, I reached my in-law's house without any information at 10.30 p.m. My parent in laws, who are in their eighties, became exultant. My mother in law went to the kitchen and prepared dinner, despite my requests for not bothering. My father in law helped her. I had my dinner at 11 p.m. and slept peacefully. When I got up, my breakfast was ready. I enjoyed the hot and tasty breakfast and touched their feet to depart. The father in law offered me a crisp five hundred rupee note which I politely refused.
 " What is this?" He asked lovingly.
 “Five hundred bucks,"  I replied.
 He refuted with a big smile," No, it is our blessings. You may need it since your car has broken down." I pocketed the crisp note obediently, though my PNB debit card was in my pocket.

The old couple in their eighties is living happily despite many old age ailments. They have good will and happiness in their hearts. They make others happy.

 

So irrespective of your problems and troubles, you can get life's ultimate aim, i.e., happiness instantly. After that, you may keep trying for other materialistic things. So tune in your favorite music this weekend and start humming. One of my favorite songs is

सब  कुछ  सीखा  हमने  ना  सीखी  दुनियादारी, सच  है  दुनियावालों  हम  हैं अनाड़ी  (I learned everything but sophistication; it is true, Duniyawalo, I am a greenhorn)

GET ADDICTED TO GOOD HABITS

Good habits formed at youth make all the difference.

- Aristotle. 

It takes only 66 days to build a healthy habit

.--- Unknown

Addiction is not only wrong, but it is deplorable too; however,  forsaking nasty habits are sadly next to impossible, yet, we may take advantage of it by getting addicted to the right habits.

I rise early in the morning and go for a brisk walk in the fresh morning air which consists of more than enough vitality-giving oxygen.  I give my ears a treat by hearing, the chirping of birds. My eyes get a treat by looking at beautiful flowers and greeneries.  My mind, too, becomes creative. Many times I get intuition to write articles during my brisk walks.

 I have become addicted to the morning walk. My lungs have become addicted to fresh and refreshing air; So every morning they ask for fresh air and goad me to leave the bed early, wear sports shoes and go for a brisk refreshing walk.

Choose, you will get addicted to which healthy habits today? Do them religiously for 66 days and longer. You will become addicted to them and will find difficult to forsake them.

DEFEAT THE DEVIL WITHIN YOURSELF

It is believed that the devil is an evil spirit and outright enemy of the mankind. He can’t defeat us in a direct fight. So the evil spirit enters into our psyche and becomes our integral part.

When we decide to do good work, the devil raises many questions. We start doubting ourselves and change our mind. Finally, the devil has the last laugh.

When we can’t afford a new Maruti Swift car, the devil within us may suggest, there is no harm in visiting the showroom and enjoy free test ride. Finally, we get so much enchanted that we take a big loan to purchase it.

When we decide to give up a bad habit, the devil suggests that there is no harm in enjoying this bad habit once just, for now, after that I shall never touch it in my entire life. This sequence goes on and goes on the entire life.

When we decide to get up at 5 A.M. daily, the devil suggests let us sleep just for 5 more minutes. You may well guess what happens after that.

When one decides to give up smoking the devil induces him to go to the places where cigarettes are sold or enjoyed.

The devil misguides us, titillates us and hoodwinks us for doing undesirable things. We must unmask the evil spirit within ourselves & keep away from situations/places that may make us vulnerable to do unwanted things.  Only then we can make our dreams real.

GOD HELP THOSE WHO HELP OTHERS

He that does good to another, does good also to himself, not only in the consequences but in the act; for the consciousness of well-doing is, in itself, ample reward - SENECA 

 The great poem, Abou Ben Adhem, written by James Henry Leigh Hunt decades ago, is relevant even now. It exhorts, "God loves those who love and help his children."
After reading the poem in my high school, I decided to help anybody who approaches me for any work. This system helped me a lot; I was often supported by unknown & unexpected sources whenever I was in trouble.

 My good friend Shri Anil Kumar was in Muzaffarpur on the 7th August 2013. He had some work at the University Police Station. I telephoned him in the morning and offered to help since I knew the SHO of the police station.
 I always crossed the University P.S. twice daily.  That day I reflexively looked at its entrance gate. I became overjoyed to see my stolen bike parked there. I entered into the P.S. and knew that my bike was recovered by the police more than one month ago and was unclaimed since then. But, I knew about it only after I offered to help my friend.

  I was returning from Patna by car in 2005. Satpura railway crossing was closed. As soon as the gateman opened it, a massive traffic rushed forward. A teenager, at once, came driving his scooter fast and dashed against my car. He fell in the nearby muddy ditch with his bike.

 I immediately jumped from my car and dragged him.  His vehicle was invisible in the ditch. I was apprehending that he would blame me for the mishap. I put my right hand on his shoulder and asked coolly," Son, are you O.K?" The teenager started shouting," Uncle, it was not your fault."
 In the meanwhile, a crowd began gathering. One tough looking young man came near me and whispered into my ear, "Sir, what are you doing here? Please start your car and go away."  I complied with his advice immediately & ran away silently.

 Dale Carnegie, in his best-selling book 'How To Stop Worrying & Start Living' advocated,"One can get rid of depression by exploring the ways and means to help others." 
All the great leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Jawahar Lal Nehru, Atal Bihar Vajpayee became great because they always strived to help and support others. They did their best to help masses to get rid of their hardships.

Will it not be an excellent idea to resolve every day to bring a beaming smile on at least one face?

BUILD AN IMPREGNABLE FORT AROUND YOUR MIND

Ancient kings built impregnable forts around their kingdoms. They made tall & strong walls so that the fiery darts of enemies became ineffective by crashing against them. The tough and trained guards defended the fort attentively, round the clock. They, promptly, attacked the enemy with full force.

Similarly, we need to build an impregnable fort around our minds, to protect it from the continuous attack of negative thoughts. We must read motivational & religious literature apart from associating with positive thinking people to build high & fortified walls of positive thoughts so that fiery darts of doubt & negativity become ineffective by crashing against them. We should be continuously vigilant against the devil that always attacks our minds with negative thoughts.Negative thoughts must be promptly torpedoed and bombarded by positive slogans.
 Many theists continuously repeat to themselves,” Dear God, You are almighty. I firmly believe that you will solve all my problems in due course.” This prayer helps them in maintaining their composure in rainy days.

I have made following super positive slogans to overpower the attack of negative thoughts. 

1.   Be a mighty bridge and practice to encash present opportunities only.

2. Meera me piya, vish ka pyala, vish ko Amrit kar dala. ( Meera, the great devotee of Lord Krishna sipped poison and turned it into nectar.

3. For every ailment under the sun, there is a remedy, or there is none. If there is one, try to find it, if there is none never mind it.

4. Be a burning candle and burn all the rotten thoughts.  

5. What happens, beautifully happens.

 While repeating these slogans, I use anchoring by gently touching one fingertip, reserved for each slogan. When I am busy talking to somebody and can't repeat slogans, I just hit the fingerpoint reserved for a particular slogan; my mind reflexively starts repeating the slogan. 

 Everybody uses some anchor. Have you seen old pictures of a happy occasion in your family? Did you notice that your mind automatically started recalling all the related happy events and, you suddenly started feeling elated?

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MAKE YOURSELF MORE USEFULL

         Make yourself more useful.
 Everybody will crave for your attention.

         Make yourself more useful.
 Everybody will die for your well being.

         Make yourself more useful.
 People will give you the choicest things.

         Make yourself more useful.
 They will take you to the skies.

         What happens when usefulness is lost?
One becomes a burden for one's own children.

         When one is dead with no utility, he is cremated by his own kith and kins.

         The world regards you according to your utility. That is why Nokia, Samsung, Tata & other companies spend millions & billions on research to increase their usefulness day by day.

MAGIC OF SOFT WORDS

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.

~ MOTHER TERESA

  The soft as well as sweet words, impress people immensely and open the gateway of long lasting friendship. The larger the number of friends, the greater becomes our success; this is why all super successful persons are expert in speaking sweet and soft words. An old Chinese proverb too, exhorts," He who treads softly goes far away."

The Sweet and Soft words are so powerful that even bluffers and cheaters mesmerize their victims for a short while, but enduring SUCCESS comes only to those who speak kind words as well as work honestly on the WIN-WIN basis.

 When people believe that you speak kind words along with delivery of cherishable results; they don't only become your real fans but also work wholeheartedly for the realization of your dreams. Naturally, you become super successful, and all your dreams come true.